Shedding unrealistic expectations of Motherhood this Mother's Day & Full Moon in Scorpio
May 12, 2025
This Mother's day shook something in me, awakened something in me.I look around and see all of these fake, commercialized, performative ways that our society celebrates Mothers Day. We had Vice President JD Vance proclaiming that he wants more babies but has no intention on honoring mothers and ensuring that the mothers are protected, and that they are well.
Sorry, not sorry, but you can keep your fake ass performative Mother's Day.
This Mother's Day actually landed on my 44th solar return, So I began my day sitting and honoring myself as a whole person, celebrating my sovereignty, and celebrating how I chose to walk and redefine motherhood.
I sat in the Ocean receiving the sunrise, and greeting Taiti Inti ☀️, thanking him for another day of life, and another Solar return. I was able to release all of the false narratives around Motherhood, as I gave them back to Mama Cocha 🌊 for healing.
I then felt myself receive new codes and guidance from my Allies, that I clearly heard speaking to me and urging me..."Gather the council Meli, form the council, help us shift into the matriarchal society that our world so badly needs. Start these conversations Meli."
Thank you guides for the assignment but... I don't have all of the answers.😮💨
Then they said... "this is the great thing about councils, you don't have to have all of the answers, gather in community! Each of you can share your own medicines and pieces that you hold and you will collectively figure out how to move forward."
So this is my post to call on the Matriarchs that want to be a part of this council, a part of this movement to redefine what it means to create a society that centers mothers and wants to ensure that they are well.
I will begin by sharing my story and point of view, hoping this calls you in. And I invite you to join this conversation, share your stories with me, Mama's what do you need to truly be well and thrive? What would a world that centers your needs look like?
I'll share what I know and what I need, through my lived and embodied experiences. I will also share what others before me have been guiding us about Matriarchal societies.
First, what I know deep in my bones, is that the role of the sacrificial mother needs to be shed, this unrealistic expectation we have for women needs to die. I have been intentionally releasing this pain and burden that my grandmothers and ancestors have been holding and carrying for the last 500 years since colonization. I Buried that false narrative the day that we buried my Mother in Law this last September. Bless her soul, she was a hard working woman, but that's all her life consisted of. She raised 10 children as a single mom, many times working 15+ hrs a day. She literally worked herself to death, died from undetected Lukemia. How? Because this is what our society does to us. Keeps us so overworked, busy, and disconnected from ourselves, and from our bodies.
Yes, this might be an extreme example. But all around me I see my friends struggling with their mental, physical and emotional health due to being overworked, lack of support and resources, and I just look at them, and hold them, and know that there is a better way for us to live. If the Mother's are not well, no one is well. That is not a threat it is a fact. We see it being reflected in our Earth Mother as well. Our bodies are a reflection of her, and her body a reflection of ours. The deeper we are able to connect with and understand our own bodies, the deeper we are able to connect with and understand our Pachamama 🤲🌎
Now, what do I need as the mother of 2 teenage Autistic boys and caregiver to 3 individuals with Special Needs? I need a lot of support! I need to feel well rested and resourced. I cannot do this by myself, and I am not ashamed to admit that. In fact, I don't know any mother who can do it alone. And if you feel like you are failing, because you haven't figured out how to do it alone, please consider this your sign and permission to give yourself some grace. Today is the Full Moon in Scorpio. We can work with the energies of Mama Killa (Mother Moon) and ask her to help us shed these false expectations that are placed on us to be the perfect Mother. 🌕🫳
I also need to be seen and honored as a Woman and not just as a Mother. As a whole ass woman with desires, goals, ambitions and needs. That doesn't mean I put all of that before my children, but it does mean I need space to explore and honor all of these other pieces of who I am 🤲
So again, I need support. I need a partner who can honor this need, family, friends and community that are able to step in when I need to tend to these other pieces of myself.
I need workplaces, clients, and ways of doing business that understand that I am a mother, and can honor and understand when I need to tend to my kids.
I need a society that moves at a slower pace to honor my cyclical nature, because it understands that this is what I need to be able to honor all parts of my life.
We need societies that truly center and honor mothers because only then can we truly honor, understand and protect creation 🙏🌎❤️🌕✨️
I look forward to hearing about your needs, and continuing this dialogue around how we shift into this Matriarchal society that honors life and all of creation. 🤲