Grief as the Doorway to Love 🤲💓
I don’t think there is any right way to grieve. I don’t believe Grief has a timeline, because Love has no timeline. An interesting thing that happens when we build the capacity to sit with our grief, it opens us up to a deeper Love.
While sitting with our Grief we revisit all of the things we wish we could have done differently, all of the ways we wish we could have been more present or shown up better for. We remember details. Last conversations, or last meals we had with someone. The way they looked, smiled, laughed, smelled. Their touch, their effort, their encouragement. Sometimes we even replay old arguments, misunderstandings, or fights and wish we hadn’t held on to the resentment; wish we could have had more patience, wish we could have had more time to work things out.
But when someone passes there is no physical way to go back and repair those ruptures, but we do have our Ancestral tools that help us to reconnect and continue to mend that relationship energetically. Us from this side of the realm and them from their side of the realm. Because when someone passes and they transcend to the other realms, their soul is still healing and doing work that they didn’t complete on this earthly plane. At least this is how I have come to understand it, through my experiences working with my Ancestors and Loved ones that have transcended.
I leave offerings, I call them into my prayers, we work shit out like if they were still here alive. We communicate our needs and desires, our boundaries, and we slowly come to an understanding. And it doesn’t replace that they aren’t here physically. Nothing ever will. But I know my loved ones want me to keep living my best life here on Earth, while they live their best life in Heaven, as they look down on me guiding, protecting, and cheering me on.
But I think that is one of the hardest parts about grief, it’s how deeply disorienting it all can be. It’s figuring out what life looks like without that person. Not feeling sure about the next step forward, because one more step forward, is one more step further away from them and further away from the life we had with them, and the future we may have envisioned with them.
I am learning that the whole path forward doesn’t have to be crystal clear, but slowly, as I feel ready, I begin taking steps again. I have become more in tune with what feels good to me, what resonates with my needs, my desires, with my soul. Some days, I take no steps at all, and that’s ok. Other days I feel like running, swimming, dancing, laughing, and crying all at once.
Wherever you are on this healing\ grieving journey, I hope that you can be proud of yourself. Be proud of the courage you have had to feel it all, the courage you have had to face another day. Be proud of your capacity to Love someone that deeply, and miss them that deeply.
And as you take those steps, I hope all of those regrets you have, turn into lessons and wisdom. I hope that the grief cracked your heart open to more tenderness and gentleness and is helping you live your life with more presence. Truly grounded and rooted in Love, you start deepening your appreciation and gratitude for everyone in your life that is still alive. Grateful for their presence, grateful they didn’t give up on you, as you needed to isolate, and let the grief take up space to feel the depths of the life you lost.
If you would like some support as you Navigate your healing journey I would love to be able to hold you through the grief with this offering:
Holding the Heart through Grief
This offering is to help support you through the Grief we experience after losing a loved one, or after a break up or divorce. After such immense loss our heart needs tending to and to be held gently
This package includes 6 sessions, with the following intentions and Ancestral Medicines:
A Heart Opening and Healing Munay Despacho
Healing your relationship with your body, and listening to what your body has been holding
7 Nusta healing to help clear and balance your energy centers.
Ancestral Healing offering
Soul Retrival
Shamanic Journey and Integration
Pricing: Sliding Scale of $777-$999
Payment Plans available upon request
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With Love and in Service,
Melina